I heard this on the radio this morning on my to work. Someone had recently written an article about how today’s man is like the new woman-meaning that he’s sensitive, wants to talk, listens, and occasionally will even cry after being overwhelmed with emotion. People called in with comments about “change in culture” and yada yada yada..I really don’t know who this person is writing about, but I think the said “new man/woman” might be wondering where the light  in his melamine birch, see through shoe drawer, glass covered island in a closet large enough to have a small dinner party in-is. A girl can dream right? So all those said listener’s- wants to have a relationship and talk things through kind of guys, just don’t exist. Men want only one thing. And no it’s not sex. I like to call it the “worship syndrome”. If they get too much your on a time line for disaster, if they don’t get enough you obviously don’t “get it”. At first there is dinner, a little romance, and politely (and cleverly, I might add) reminding you of that little something you said you had to do today, opening the door, and saying that he likes your parents- to name a few pluses. Then there is the busy with work, sorry can’t make it tonight hanging with the guys, going to be away, can I call you- minuses. Those are really big minus’s aren’t they? Some girls just won’t take minus for an answer. My only advice: keep him wanting your ever loving attention by playing the only game he knows how to play. Don’t dote, suck-up, look like his mother in any way, (do not do his laundry or make cute animal creatures with his food, you get my drift) say anything about his friends, absolutely do not care about his friends for one minute, second, milla nata. You do have a life do you not? If not refer to page 3 of article 79 “self-esteem counts”. Be who you are. Strong, not afraid to go to the movies by yourself for the peace and quiet. Eat out at that really cool café and look like you’re the owner checking up on all the staff to make sure they are doing their job satisfying all those other cool people. Yes be cool. Keep it very very cool. Because you were born with it. You have it on your birth certificate somewhere in between your first and middle name the initial C. There is nothing you want more than to be loved. Don’t care who you are or what island of denial you may be stranded on. And sorry to say, the only way to get it, (bar meeting your soul mate which by the way happens every 500 years or so, might have to wait a few lifetimes) is to make him realize, even though it isn’t true, or maybe it is- that he’s just one of the many. Just the way he does it or thinks so. Keep it going for as long as you can. And if there is one thing true about this new man/woman it is that the true heart of a man is soft. And ladies, much softer than ours. That’s why it is so important not hurt them. Most of them can only take just one time, and then look what we get stuck with. Issues. Loads of them. And we do have enough of our own don’t we? Be patient and your new man will open like a flower when he feels that he can truly trust you. So it works both ways. He learns to respect your independence and you never loose it. The reward is respect. And that’s just about as much love as anyone could ever want in one lifetime.