The world of dating is a confusing roller coaster ride of emotional ups and downs. One day we can find ourselves in love and soaring above the sky. The next day we find ourselves in tears, as we pick up the pieces of our lives wondering what went wrong. While there are many reasons that relationships don’t work out as planned, I am reminded of the words of our founding father Benjamin Franklin when he said, ” an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.”  While many women tend to blame themselves and try to rehash every aspect to figure out what went wrong in a relationship; we seldomly consider that “the fixer upper man” selection might have been the culprit. Keeping this sentiment in mind we will discuss  five types of men whose mannerisms make them just not worth the heartache.

1. The Ladies Man- This agent might be the most easily identified. With his good looks and charming ways, he often leaves a trail of broken hearted women in his path. Be aware of disgruntled exes and “the word on the street.” While you shouldn’t judge a man based on reputation alone remember that he probably didn’t get such a reputation without earning it.

2. The Unhappy Taken Man- Who hasn’t fallen for the line “my girlfriend/wife and I are going through a rough patch, we are practically over?” No matter how much he insist his wife or girlfriend doesn’t understand him like you do, be savvy to his game. True he may be interested in dating you but do you think that you are the only one he is feeding this line to? If he is willing to betray the trust of his significant other (with whom he has history) what makes you think he won’t do it to you?

3. The Aggressive Type- This type should go without saying but sadly, thousands of women find themselves in relationships that are abusive. By abusive I don’t just mean hitting or beating, I mean emotional and sexual as well. Beware the signs of an aggressive man. Don’t allow yourself to be wooed by a man who wants to own you instead of love you.

4. The Self Obsessed Oblivious Sort- This fellow might be a little more difficult to identify. This is the man who goes about his day oblivious to your wants, feelings and needs. This is the man who aims to please himself during sexual encounters without concern towards your gratification. While this type has potential to change under the right circumstances, one must consider the thought that consideration is preferably inherent not forced. If he isn’t considerate while you are dating what makes you think he will be considerate once you marry him? There are times you might be sick or need his help. You will want him to give that naturally, not because you kicked and screamed to get it.

5. The Man Who is Never Pleased- Ever met that guy who seems to return every meal he gets at a restaurant because of some small imperfection? Or how about the guy who gets pleasure out of picking at the flaws of passerbys? These men are constantly analyzing and criticizing the things around them without thought to their own imperfections. Beware of this man. It is just a matter or time before he turns that skeptical eye to you and your “imperfect” body or not so trendy clothes. You want someone who loves you for you and not who they want you to be. Don’t change yourself to please someone who can’t be pleased.